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- Adhan (part 1 of 2): The Call to Prayer
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- Reflections on Surah al-Fatiha (part 1 of 3)
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- Satan: Humankind’s Worst Enemy (part 1 of 2)
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Level 5 (29)
- Manners of Attending a Mosque (part 1 of 2)
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- Voluntary Prayers
- Treatment of Animals
- Lying, Backbiting and Slander (part 1 of 2)
- Lying, Backbiting and Slander (part 2 of 2)
- Increasing Faith (part 1 of 2): Why faith is not always at asteady level
- Increasing Faith (part 2 of 2): Increase your faith (Imaan)and earn rewards
- Voluntary Fasts
- Signs of the Day of Judgment (part 1 of 2): The Minor Signs
- Signs of the Day of Judgment (part 2 of 2): The Major Signs
- Adultery, Fornication, & Pornography (part 1 of 2)
- Adultery, Fornication, & Pornography (part 2 of 2)
- Islamic Guidelines for Gender Interactions(part 1 of 2)
- Islamic Guidelines for Gender Interactions (part 2 of 2)
- Introduction to Shariah (part 1 of 2)
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- Acts that Correspond to Human Nature (Sunan ul-Fitrah)
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- Innovation in Islam (part 1 of 2): Two Types of Bidah
- Innovation in Islam (part 2 of 2): Is this a bidah?
- Ramadan: The Last Ten Nights
- Umrah (part 1 of 2)
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- Concept of Sins in Islam (part 1 of 3)
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- Concept of Sins in Islam (part 3 of 3)
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- An Explanation of Surah Al-Asr
- The Questioning in the Grave (part 1 of 2): Death is not theEnd
- The Questioning in the Grave (part 2 of 2): Your Place untilthe Day of Judgment
- The Fruits of Taqwa (part 1 of 2)
- The Fruits of Taqwa (part 2 of 2)
- An Explanation of Surah Al-Ikhlas
- The Rights of Neighbours in Islam (part 1 of 2): The KindTreatment of Neighbours
- The Rights of Neighbours in Islam (part 2 of 2): Neighbours -Good and Bad
- Those Shaded when there is no Shade (part 1 of 2): Allah’sMercy made Manifest
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- Sincerity in Worship: What is Ikhlas? (part 1 of 2)
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- The Companions of Prophet Muhammad: Salman Al-Farsi
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- The Companions of Prophet Muhammad: Ammar ibn Yassir
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- Inviting Non-Muslims to the Right Path (part 1 of 3): Deliverthe Message in the Best Way Possible
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- Who Is a Good Friend? (part 1 of 2)
- Who Is a Good Friend? (Part 2 of 2)
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- Ummah: The Muslim Nation
- Simplified Rules of Islamic Divorce (part 1 of 2)
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- The Role of a Muslim Scholar (part 1 of 2)
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- The Benefits of Being a Muslim
- Sacred Cities; Mecca, Medina, & Jerusalem (part 1 of 2)
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- Prayers – Advanced (part 1 of 2)
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- Bad Morals to Stay Away From (part 1 of 2)
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- What is Jihad?
- Prophet Adam: Beginning of Humankind (part 1 of 2)
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- An Explanation of Surah Az-Zalzalah
- Morals of Prophet Muhammad (part 1 of 2)
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- Preserving the Environment
- Crime and Punishment in Islam (part 1 of 2)
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- Prostration of Forgetfulness
- Introduction to Hadith Terminology
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Islamic Guidelines for Gender Interactions (part 2 of 2)
Description: The lesson focuses on setting boundaries between men and women as defined by Allah to protect us and to keep our hearts and thoughts pure.
By Imam Mufti (© 2013 NewMuslims.com)
Published on 03 Jun 2013 - Last modified on 25 Jun 2019
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Objectives:
·To learn about the three types of forbidden ikhtilaat in Islam.
·To learn four guidelines to be observed when interacting with the opposite gender.
Arabic Terms:
·Ikhtilaat - physical presence of men and women at one place.
·Khalwah – a man being alone with a non-mahram woman.
·Mahram – a person, man or woman related to a particular individual by blood, marriage or breastfeeding. One he or she is not permitted to marry, such as the father, nephew, uncle, etc
How do people slip into adultery? Why do office romances take place? How do married men get romantically involved with another woman? The simple answer is that it is a slow process of boundary-less decisions. It is a gradual thing. Imagine a little wall all around you, with a gate. Your heart lives inside the wall and Allah has told you how to control the gate. Bad things happen when you either do not know what Allah has told you or are careless about what goes in and what goes out of that gate.
There are three forms of ikhtilaat or intermixing that are forbidden:
First, the touch is a form of non-verbal communication. Islam frowns upon any form of physical contact or touching between men and non-mahram women. The Prophet, may Allah praise him, said: “I do not shake hands with women.” (Muwatta, Sunan Tirmidhi, Nasai, Ibn Majah)
He also said: “If one of you were to be stabbed in the head with a needle of iron, it would be better for him than touching a woman who is not permissible for him.” (at-Tabarani) This would include situations where men and women are close enough to lead to physical contact.
Now, there might be an unavoidable situation or demands of a profession like a nurse touching a male patient or crowding during Hajj. Get clarity on them by referring to a knowledgeable scholar of Islam. The general rule is clear and has been explained.
Second, being alone with a non-mahram woman. It’s known as khalwah. The Prophet of Islam said, “Never is a man alone with a woman except that Satan is the third party with them.”
Khalwah takes place when one or more men are alone with a single non-mahram woman in a place where no one can see them. If there are two women and a man, this is not khalwah. Whether something untoward happens or not is not the point, it is still a sin. Seclusion of this type is still a sin no matter what happens as a result. It still corrodes and is bad for one’s intention.
For example, don’t be in the office alone with a man. Either leave or ask another female co-worker to stay.
Third, a man being with a non-mahram woman in one place without khalwah, but social controls and restrictions are relaxed and inhibitions are dampened. The same can be said for any repeated acquaintance between men and women. Repeated meetings break down barriers and allow opportunities for a relationship to develop.
Two points must be understood here:
1. There are situations and places we control and there are some we don’t. We might be excused for what lies outside of our control, and we should ask Allah for His forgiveness. At the same time we are responsible for the places we control.
2. How should we act in places we do not control? What are the rules of behavior for a Muslim woman when she meets a man? How should Muslim men and women set boundaries with the opposite gender? Boundaries by virtue of their purpose indicate a clear line of separation. With this in mind, what is the clear line of separation in our behavior with colleagues or fellow students of the opposite gender? There are four guidelines:
1. Eye Contact
Lower the gaze, limit eye contact, and obviously do not exchange admiring glances. Allah tells us in the Quran,
“Tell the believing men that they should lower their gazes and guard their chastity. This is purer for them. Allah is informed of what they do (He knows the inclinations of the heart and the secretive glances that men cast). And tell the believing women that they should lower their gazes and preserve their chastity.” (Quran 24:30-31)
2. Dress
Both men and women should maintain the Islamic dress code.[1]
“…they (women) must not expose (anything that reveals) their beauty, except what becomes apparent of it (the outer garment which obviously cannot be concealed when a woman leaves her home). And they should wear their scarves over their bosoms (to cover their heads and breasts)…” (Quran 24:31)
3. Body Language
Be dignified in your body language. Watch your movement, gestures, and postures. Allah says in the Quran,
“…they (women) should not strike their feet on the ground to reveal the beauties (jewellery) that they conceal (they should walk in a manner that does not cause their jewellery to jingle and attract attention)…” (Quran 24:31)
4. Tone of Voice
Use a serious tone of voice and expression. Like a spoon of sugar can encourage a child to take bad tasting medicine, so can sweet words seduce a person from the opposite gender. You do not have to be rude, but speak in a “business like” tone. Your speech should be direct and to the point so that no desire is aroused in the person. Allah says in the Quran,
“…do not speak in lowered tones (with a sweet voice) lest he in whose heart is a disease of lust should be moved with desire. And speak in a befitting manner.” (Quran 33:32)
In practical terms: don’t flirt, make crude jokes, touch, giggle, use suggestive body-language and avoid having a relaxed, informal, social conversation.
Footnotes:
[1] For more information on this, please see: (http://www.newmuslims.com/lessons/135/) [3 parts]
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- Treatment of Animals
- Lying, Backbiting and Slander (part 1 of 2)
- Lying, Backbiting and Slander (part 2 of 2)
- Increasing Faith (part 1 of 2): Why faith is not always at asteady level
- Increasing Faith (part 2 of 2): Increase your faith (Imaan)and earn rewards
- Voluntary Fasts
- Signs of the Day of Judgment (part 1 of 2): The Minor Signs
- Signs of the Day of Judgment (part 2 of 2): The Major Signs
- Adultery, Fornication, & Pornography (part 1 of 2)
- Adultery, Fornication, & Pornography (part 2 of 2)
- Islamic Guidelines for Gender Interactions(part 1 of 2)
- Islamic Guidelines for Gender Interactions (part 2 of 2)
- Introduction to Shariah (part 1 of 2)
- Introduction to Shariah (part 2 of 2)
- Acts that Correspond to Human Nature (Sunan ul-Fitrah)
- Eid ul-Adha from A to Z (part 1 of 3)
- Eid ul-Adha from A to Z (part 2 of 3)
- Eid ul-Adha from A to Z (part 3 of 3)
- Innovation in Islam (part 1 of 2): Two Types of Bidah
- Innovation in Islam (part 2 of 2): Is this a bidah?
- Ramadan: The Last Ten Nights
- Umrah (part 1 of 2)
- Umrah (part 2 of 2)
- Concept of Sins in Islam (part 1 of 3)
- Concept of Sins in Islam (part 2 of 3)
- Concept of Sins in Islam (part 3 of 3)
Islamic Guidelines for Gender Interactions (part 2 of 2)
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